2013 January 01 Tuesday
Female Sex Therapist Peddles The "Too Scared To Commit" Myth
A book entitled The Men on My Couch promotes a recurring female myth about men.
The sex secrets of New York men reveal them to be a collection of neurotic, insecure, unfeeling perverts, too scared to commit to a relationship with someone they care for.
According to Big Apple sex therapist Dr. Brandy Engler, who has listened to the psychological issues of the men-folk of New York for seven-years, serial cheating, porn addiction and soliciting prostitutes are all symptoms of an inability to settle down in the big smoke.
Granted some of these guys might be scared of getting shafted in divorce court. But the "scared to commit" myth is propagated by women who don't want to face the biggest sexual instinct in men: the desire for variety.
Scared? Sure, scared of being trapped in a sex-less marriage.
“The number one complaint from men about women in long-term relationships is, ‘I don’t feel appreciated,’ ” Engler told The Post. “Men are looking for some expression that they are valued.”
Once married lots of women get fat or lose their interest in sex or both. Men want more sex than women do. A guy doesn't have to be scared of marriage to see that's a bad deal. As for serial cheating: it takes two to tango. Who ever are the cheating guys cheating with?
By Randall Parker at 2013 January 01 11:39 AM
That last quote "I don't feel appreciated" sure seems like something a woman, and definietely not a real man, should say. I bet most of her patients are lucky betas who she has no problem name calling because of the fact they have to go to a woman for mental help.
However, I also believe that phd (I refuse to call doctor) is part of a larger agenda that she is simply complying to that is against men. Just another book about how men suck because they like to have sex with different women...
Sounds like New York men are making a conscious choice, which the author dislikes, so she attributes it to 'fear' in an attempt to undermine the rationality of the choice.
I don't put my hand in a rattlesnake nest, because there is a good chance I'll be bitten. Would you describe me as "afraid" or "smart"?
I pay a premium to lease cars as opposed to buying. This gives me variety and reduces responsibility as I don't have to maintain the vehicle. Am I "afraid to buy a car" or did I "make a choice based on my values"?
Would that last analogy hit a little too close to home for the author?
This reminds me of the joke where you sneak a peek at your analyst's notebook and it says "COMPLETELY BONKERS".
Plenty of red flags in that article to those in the know, though. Dr Brandy sounds like a pretty terrible therapist, lacking any deeper understanding or empathy with her patients. So maybe she should try marital counseling next.
Hah, hah - Google her picture. Fugly!!
The explanations women come up with for men's desires and behaviors are often a hoot.
Hey, it can't be any worse than what makes the rounds whenever a famous man is caught cheating. When Tiger Woods was busted, the question that was all the rage was "why do men cheat?" I particularly loved the ad where he was supposedly "chastised" by his father, who of course was a model of monogamous behavior himself...
"The biggest sexual instinct in men: the desire for variety."
For many men, this isn't true. I think that often gets left out.
Raising successful kids within a strong partnership is very K-selected. The mechanism for that is the high that people get from long-term pair-bonding.
Tiger Woods cheated because he has a short time horizon and doesn't have sufficient cognitive resources to control his consciousness.
Women can find the Prince Charmings, but to do so, they must become Snow White.
Western men become more valuable when they go abroad. They can find themselves great wives who haven't been brainwashed by those in the West who are anti-civilization.
Abroad, there are plenty of K-selected, high IQ women who haven't had good opportunities, and would love to fall in love with a Western man.
But Western women can't marry abroad as easily, because they need to find men who are smarter about the world and taller than they are.
Whenever you read an article about a woman getting victimized by violent crime, remember that it's womens' voting patterns that have made it impossible to create a society where women would be safe.
For example, this woman in my city has recently had her life changed by a thug, but she's exactly the type of person who would resist efforts to move that high crime ghetto off some of the most expensive real estate in the world.
(Her mugging was tame enough that newspapers featured it, instead of suppressing the story, as they normally do.)