2009 July 12 Sunday
Adultery Dating Service

Really. If you are going to commit adultery do it efficiently using the latest internet technology. That way the affairs will take less time to set up and leave you with more family time. Isn't that a great idea?

"Drew" is a 37-year-old businessman who lives in the Troy area.

His wife is consumed with work. And they don't have sex.

"The truth is I love my wife, but sometimes I feel like I need something on the side," says Drew, who spoke to the Free Press on the condition of anonymity.

So Drew hooks up through the adultery dating service AshleyMadison.com. He said he has met, and had sex with, about 10 women, and he credits the illicit trysts with helping him stay married.

"It has enabled me to meet women in my similar situation and has helped fill the void of the lack of intimacy in my life," says Drew, whose wife has no clue. "Strange as it may sound, it's helped my marriage. The pressure is off ... It's probably a lot cheaper than divorce."

Save money by avoiding the divorce. Make sure kids have 2 parents. Okay, does this actually work?

Seriously, when men have affairs on the side while married and they do not get caught does this increase or decrease the odds of divorce? Is adultery a release valve or a destabilizer? This is hard to tease out because married men who commit adultery probably have stronger sex drives than married men who do not. Can social science data give us any insights into this question?

Share |      By Randall Parker at 2009 July 12 11:17 PM  Cultural Wars Marriage


Comments
averros said at July 13, 2009 3:47 AM:

Heh. In more civilized places, like France, having an extramartial affair is considered normal and healthy - for both men and women. Being jealous is considered seriously declasse.

That's one of the reasons I have a French girlfriend:)

Sgt. Joe Friday said at July 13, 2009 7:12 AM:

Men and women cheat for different reasons. When a man cheats, it's most likely he's looking to supplement what he's getting at home. When a woman cheats, that's usually a signal she's checked out of the relationship, emotionally speaking. If your wife or GF is riding the baloney pony with another guy, you'd better expect to be hearing "it's not you, it's me" real soon.

Joe Steele said at July 13, 2009 12:28 PM:

"Being jealous is considered seriously declasse."

After all, the body of a woman is not her property. Property rights are declasse. It is right and just for the community to decide how to use a body, for it is for the community's benefit it exists and is made use of.

averros said at July 14, 2009 9:49 AM:

Joe - please look up the meaning of "strawman" and "false dichotomy". You substitute lack of jealousy (which *is* treating another person like she's your property) with making women public propety - and than argue against it. Yeah, you're right, making women public property is bad. But this has no relation to my earlier statement whatsoever - and being jealous and making women public aren't the only two available choices.

Kind of sad to see someone managing to commit two transparent logic fallacies in two lines of text.

Blue Oyster Bar said at July 14, 2009 10:53 AM:

Joe,
I need to make use of your body.


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